Category Archives: Communication

Thought for the Day | 9-17-13


Tact is the art of making a point without making an enemy. -Howard W. Newton

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Tip of the Day | 3-25-13

Ever wonder why/how people who had great relationships get married and then quickly divorce?



A lot of those marriages fail because people change the terms of their relationship in their own minds and assume their partner knows the terms changed.  The truth is, some things DO change; i.e. titles (husband/wife), legal responsibilities, status (temp vs perm), etc.  However, the things that REALLY matter–that ultimately led to you getting married stay the same; i.e. love, trust, honesty, respect, commitment, etc.


~~BEFORE saying “I do”: Define the expectations of marriage OUT LOUD with each other and trust that the foundation you laid as a couple before marriage is strong enough to sustain you!~~ (Ki²)




Friday’s Thought | 10-21-11

“The dresses are lovely, ... They move very well and they're very feminine. They make women look really like women.”--Carolina Herrera

I asked the following question on my Facebook page yesterday...

ATTENTION MEN:   I’ve been told by many women that they get more attention when they are wearing a dress than any other time….What is it about a dress on a woman that you find appealing & attractive?

After reading all of their responses, I came to a simple conclusion:

Men are attracted to the femininity that a dress represents.  They appreciate the visual peek-a-boo that a dress can have as it caresses a woman’s body.

One of the men asked said,I enjoy women who embrace their femininity-heels, dress, nails done hair done; a little lip gloss & eyeliner. I love women for being the exact opposite of me, tender, soft, sweet smelling…–When they put that femininity on display I’m a happy observer.

With that that in mind, here’s a quick thought from my observations as a woman…

A lot of us women aren’t comfortable in our skin for a lot of reasons.  Heavy media images depicting what is beautiful, sexy and feminine can cause us to feel the need to live up to those images.   In an attempt to live up to that standard we tend to try too hard.  We begin to conform to what we have been conditioned to believe is the ideal or we go to the far extreme…Ultra Feminism!  

Don’t get me wrong, I believe in equal work for equal pay, however some of us have taken the Feminist movement a little too far!  As a result, we “modern women” focus a lot of attention on being STRONG and INDEPENDENT.  If we were to display anything other than that (i.e. femininity) it  is viewed as a sign of weakness; (there is nothing wrong with that if you plan to be alone for the rest of your life) however I think it is important for us to learn when to exhibit strength, how to use our powers for good  and not to forget to be INTERDEPENDENT.

In a nutshell, don’t be afraid to embrace your innate femininity! Be confident, be soft, keep it simple and put on a dress!  Men love it and appreciate when you tap into it!

“I think a woman gets more if she acts feminine–Nancy Reagan


The Consummate Provocateur


Never Dim Your Light for Others to shine…NEVER Apologize for Being YOU!!

Question from a follower… | October 10, 2011

I received the following letter in my inbox and the writer wants your help!

Please share your thoughts HERE (in the comments section) or on my Facebook page!

Hi KiKi…

I have been with my boyfriend for over five years, we live together and I don’t want to be with him anymore.  I love him, but I am not in love with him.  We always argue and haven’t been intimate in over a year and a half.  I have tried almost everything to get rid of him but he just won’t leave (including not speaking to him for weeks at a time ) and now he has this idea in his head that we should get married!!  It’s gotten to the point where I feel like I have to figure out a way to make it “his idea” to break up with me because he would never break up with me and leave on his own.  Honestly I think he is more “obsessed” with me that “in love” with me and I think he would stalk me or maybe even do something harmful if I was ever to really leave him.  Can you or your followers help me come up with a way to make this break up HIS IDEA so he would leave me alone for good?  (This is only an excerpt)

Break-ups are like removing a bandage…if  you do it quickly the pain will be over before you know it!–Unknown


The Consummate Provocateur


Never Dim Your Light for Others to shine…NEVER Apologize for Being YOU!!

Tuesday’s Thought (10-4-11)

Monday’s Thought…

(October 4, 2011)

We’re the authors of our reality, the draft was created when we were born; Are you happy with the current version or is it time for some re-writes?KiKi Richardson

The word that is heard perishes, but the letter that is written remains–Proverb

Monday’s Thought (9-19-11)



Monday’s Thought…

(September 19, 2011)

During the process of self discovery you will come to realize how difficult it is to change things about self…honestly, how easy did you think it would be to change your mate? —KiKi Richardson

Thursday’s Quote | 9-15-11

Men are my hobby, if I ever got married I’d have to give it up.–Mae West



Monday’s Quote | 9-12-11


Every man wants a woman to appeal to his better side, his nobler instincts, his higher nature – AND another woman to help him forget them–H. Rowland



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My lesson on loss…

I’ve lost a lot in my life…jobs, frienships, things, people and even relationships but as I look back… were they really losses?

I don’t know about you, but I have spent a lot of time, lost a lot of sleep and shed many tears bemoaning “losses” that ultimately were monumental wins to me in the long run. I have learned that when something or someone is removed from my life, it is only to be replaced by something better!  It’s better because every loss makes ME better!

When put into perspective, I can see how each loss has made me better….

 Losing relationships have taught me lessons about intimacy, vulnerability and compromise.

 Losing jobs have taught me about dedication, work ethic and the importance of being in control of my own destiny.

 Losing a loved one in their transition of life has taught me how to cherish those who are dear to me, learn the lessons they were put in my life to teach me and to never take for granted a moment in this life.

 Losing friends have taught me the value of interdependence, camaraderie and acceptance without judgement.

When I count up all that I’ve gained from those losses…I have actually won! The statistics are overwhelmingly in my favor!  I have learned to celebrate my losses as fervently as I celebrate my wins maybe you should too!!

In the end I STILL WIN!

Sometimes when you lose you win and when you win, you lose–Bernie Mac (My mentor, my friend and one of my Angels)


The Consummate Provocateur


Never Dim Your Light for Others to shine…NEVER Apologize for Being YOU!!


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